Monday, April 13, 2009

Happy Easter

Thanks to everyone for your comments. It helps so much to see what other people have done with their kids. I just want to make things as easy on us and her as possible. I will take ANY suggestions, ANY time, from ANY one!

We were not going to go to Easter dinner because Mia is only 3 weeks old, but Jaden had an uncle in town who probably won't get another chance to see her for at least 6 months. So, we went. I cried on the way there. I was so nervous. We got there and there were a TON of people! I was watching all of these kids run around with runny noses. At one point, Jaden's cousin said I wasn't being myself and I ran out of the living room crying! We all laughed about it later. I always thought I would be a really easy going mom. I hope I will get better! I feel like a mother bear who could rip anyone apart that comes near my baby! Overall though, we had a really good Easter. How amazing that God gave his son and let him go through the cross for US! I can't imagine. Thank you Lord.

5 comments:

Sarah said...

Isn't it funny how much your parenting styles change after the baby is actually here!! I didn't expect to be so obsessive with some of the things that I am with Saylor, but you just never can tell!
Hope your getting some sleep and enjoying this wonderful time!

Thomas and Jamie said...

Berkeley - it's funny that you say that! I was SO bad when Malachi was first born that I started crying at Hoffbrau because I didn't trust that the little sling for his carseat would actually hold him. I had my hand on the seat the WHOLE TIME! Sleep will help with this and so will time! (Of course, Lexapro for a few months helped me!) And no, you're no different than any other momma!!

Ingram Gang said...

It's funny the things motherhood brings out in me. I still can feel mamma bear rising up from time to time. Brad almost got into a fight with a man at the Donut Stop this morning because he made a funny comment towards Noah. :)

To answer your question, I think I did it like this:
I would put them in bed with me and do the pacifier thing. I would give that a few weeks (two-ish). After a few nights of waking up at (let's say) 3am and giving her the pacifier, she will probably start to not wake up until 3:30 and then 4 and then 4:30 and so on. My kids got used to sleeping longer and longer. So they wouldn't be coming to our bed until later and later, being in our bed less time each night. After a few weeks, I could see a pattern. For example, the pacifier would satisfy until about 5am. (I said 7am in the last post. That wasn't true for a few months, it was more like 11-5).
After this, they would sleep until 5ish and at that point I would nurse. That's when I did the wake up, nurse, burp, back to bed. No lights (usually didn't change a diaper) no talking, just nurse and back to bed.
You can tell how I have used all of my psychology classes on conditioning :)
They both slept a few hours in our bed for about two months. This slowly weaned. They don't sleep with us now. In fact, Kayt wouldn't know the first thing about sleeping anywhere but her bed. Early on, just being close to mom is such a comfort and it eases so much of what they are wanting. I would definitely start her out each night in her crib/bassinet so that she gets used to a night time routine, (I have a theory for that too,but that's another story. haha) but I didn't worry too much about ending the morning in our bed for a while. I would always put them back after I nursed. They were just in our bed for the in between hours. Does this make sense?

Five hours is really good. Sometimes the pacifier would work two times or so, but I think after a few weeks a definite pattern will begin to develop that you both will be happy with. One feeding isn't bad at all. And I would be up less than 30 minutes all night. It's amazing what a good nights sleep can do for you. :)
Please don't think I'm imposing my 'stuff' on you, but it took all of that to answer one simple question. :)

p.s. do you have Easter pictures?

Ingram Gang said...

Sorry that was so long. Oops.

Julia Soler said...

I've been that same way with each of my kids...staying home hiding from germs for a min of 6 weeks, running from coughing people, not wanting to share them, lol, and the list goes on....sounds like Mia got a GREAT mommy!!!